Imposter syndrome is a psychological state that the majority of us have faced at some point throughout our lives. It occurs when we doubt our abilities or accomplishments and have a fear of being “found out” to be fraudulent. This limiting belief, whereby we don’t experience success internally despite external evidence of our competence, can make us shy away in our shadows of self-doubt rendering our low self-worth to lead the show instead of our prowess.
The term “imposter syndrome” was invented by two psychologists in 1978 who narrowed down the syndrome into various identifiable types.
Often characterised by a need to be flawless in every endeavour, the “perfectionist” sets excessively high goals for themselves, which often leads to chronic stress and burnout. As their underlying fear is losing control, in order to move through this type, it is necessary to delegate more and allow others to cope regardless.
“The superperson” wants to succeed in every role they take on, whether it be at work, in relationships or at home – which results in overworking and overcommitting. Their underlying fear is spending too much free time on personal matters, whereas work is much more validating. As this type is addicted to external validation, it is wise to focus more on internal validation and to take feedback constructively rather than personally.
“The natural genius” judges their competence based on ease and speed as opposed to their efforts. This type feels that if they need to work hard to achieve something, they assume they are incompetent. They hold shame around failing, so the best way to move through this pattern is see oneself as a work in progress and a life-long learner.
“The soloist” feels vulnerable to ask for help. This proves to them they are incapable and incompetent, hence prefer to act alone. This type can learn to ask more and it would be beneficial for them to gain a mentor.
“The expert” wants to have all the skills and knowledge before attempting a task. Their fear is of inadequacy, as they believe they will never know enough and worry about being exposed as inexperienced or unknowledgeable. Baby steps in continuously “putting themselves out there” irrespective of the mistakes and pitfalls will help this type to gain the necessary muscles needed.
Imposter syndrome is a widespread issue which affects all ages and demographics. If left unattended can have detrimental effects on our mental health, confidence, professional performance and overall growth.
To gain better perspective, ensure you acknowledge your feelings and know that this is a common experience — even Einstein had it! Reframe your thoughts and focus on facts every time the feelings of dread creep in. Set yourself realistic goals all the while celebrating your wins each and every day.
Through self-awareness, cognitive restructuring, employing coping strategies and securing supportive systems, these components will ultimately lead us to a healthier understanding of self and a more fulfilling professional and personal life. Small steps each and every day will eventually lead us a long way and put the dreaded imposter syndrome at bay.
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