“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me”. Never thought that this quote was ever true. Since words can have such an effect on you and many times it cuts deep like a sharp knife.
Also true, words can be inspirational and motivational to the point it can change your life for the better. Words can have such an impactful meaning to a person either negative or positive.
As Rudyard Kipling said: “Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” So it has to be said responsibly. As what is about to be uttered might overwhelm the person and change their view of you. What was said might have an impact and can alter a situation in just a second.
This makes you think that at times we aren’t aware of what we have said. As words are so easily spoken and we can say anything at the moment, to only realise the damage is done.
And many times we are just being honest, expressing an opinion with no harm meant.
Some family disagreements are often due to the wrong words being said. It is so easy to say wrong words when you’re angry or trying to defend yourself.
I remember an argument among a couple on the beach a few weeks ago. As I was seated on the bench near the couple, I was able to overhear the wife shouting at the man.
I couldn’t make out what started the argument, but I could hear her words to him. When I thought she had the last word, the husband started to pour in his words.
What happened next was a whole new situation; the wife started to cry. I felt bad and so do the people around them.
In my opinion, the husband should have controlled the situation and taken the conversation to a private location. But instead, the whole thing exploded and wrong words were used and the wife started crying creating an uncomfortable situation for both.
I am a firm believer that we should say what is in our minds; honesty is the word. But I also believe that the right words should be used to express honesty.
No matter how powerful words can be, we can’t suppress our opinion or mind. Say what is in your mind. ‘Just choose your words wisely’.
Like the couple, there are many examples of using the wrong words that can create rifts between family members and friends. You can lose your job, find yourself in trouble with the law... the list goes on. If one uses the right words, one can establish great relationships and connections.
When someone says what you said hurts, you should take notice. Yes, words said can be a double-edged sword. But nonetheless don’t be quiet, just be mindful of your words.
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