The pain of divorce is hard on children
Published: 05:09 PM,Sep 05,2023 | EDITED : 03:09 PM,Sep 12,2023
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The impact of divorce on children can be profound and long-lasting, particularly during their formative years when their personalities are taking shape. This was a central topic of discussion during Observer’s monthly Round Table Discussion on Monday, where an expert panel gathered to shed light on this concerning issue.
In Oman, divorce cases surged by 8 per cent in 2022, reaching 4,160 cases compared to 3,837 cases in the previous year. This dramatic increase has raised the urgent need for a deeper examination of this trend’s root causes and potential consequences.
Studies highlight that parental divorce or separation significantly increases children and adolescents’ risk of adjustment problems. These problems include academic difficulties, lower grades, dropout rates, disruptive behaviours, substance use issues and depression.
Abdullah al Shueili, the Editor-in-Chief of Oman Observer, emphasised the significance of this increase in divorce rates within a closely-knit society like Oman. He attributed this trend to the aftermath of the Covid-19 pandemic, which led to global job losses and societal changes.
One of the most poignant consequences of divorce is the identity crisis children face from broken marriages. They often lack the presence of one or both parents, which can have a profound impact on their developing personalities and characters.
The panel, comprising Advocate Reem al Zadjali, Dr Pallavi Singh, a dentist and head of operations, and Rahma al Kalbani, a journalist with Oman Daily, moderated by Ahmed al Kaabi, delved into the reasons behind the rising divorce rates in Oman and explored the elements of successful marriages.
Lawyer Reem al Zadjali identified several contributing factors to divorces, including rapid modernisation, urbanisation influenced by social media, and women’s increasing financial independence. She noted that social media also played a role in extramarital relationships, contributing to the trend.
Dr Pallavi Singh emphasised that toxic relationships and incompatibility often lead to divorce. She highlighted the importance of communication and interdependence in a healthy relationship, cautioning against unrealistic expectations and excessive interference from family and friends.
Omani law allows engaged couples an “engagement period” to get to know each other and evaluate their compatibility, aiming to prevent culture shocks after marriage.
Journalist Rahma al Kalbani emphasised that marriage should be a choice, not an obligation forced upon individuals. She advocated for personal freedom in choosing life partners.
Mai al Abri, a journalist with Oman Observer, pointed out the changing perception of women in society. Women often endured silently in the past, but now they are more empowered and independent. She stressed that mutual respect is the key to successful relationships.
The discussion also touched on the distinction between arranged and love marriages. Dr Pallavi suggested that many love marriages face challenges because family members often do not intervene, assuming the couple will resolve issues independently. Without experienced guidance, this can lead to divorce, highlighting the importance of support and communication in all types of marriages.
In Oman, divorce cases surged by 8 per cent in 2022, reaching 4,160 cases compared to 3,837 cases in the previous year. This dramatic increase has raised the urgent need for a deeper examination of this trend’s root causes and potential consequences.
Studies highlight that parental divorce or separation significantly increases children and adolescents’ risk of adjustment problems. These problems include academic difficulties, lower grades, dropout rates, disruptive behaviours, substance use issues and depression.
Abdullah al Shueili, the Editor-in-Chief of Oman Observer, emphasised the significance of this increase in divorce rates within a closely-knit society like Oman. He attributed this trend to the aftermath of the Covid-19 pandemic, which led to global job losses and societal changes.
One of the most poignant consequences of divorce is the identity crisis children face from broken marriages. They often lack the presence of one or both parents, which can have a profound impact on their developing personalities and characters.
The panel, comprising Advocate Reem al Zadjali, Dr Pallavi Singh, a dentist and head of operations, and Rahma al Kalbani, a journalist with Oman Daily, moderated by Ahmed al Kaabi, delved into the reasons behind the rising divorce rates in Oman and explored the elements of successful marriages.
Lawyer Reem al Zadjali identified several contributing factors to divorces, including rapid modernisation, urbanisation influenced by social media, and women’s increasing financial independence. She noted that social media also played a role in extramarital relationships, contributing to the trend.
Dr Pallavi Singh emphasised that toxic relationships and incompatibility often lead to divorce. She highlighted the importance of communication and interdependence in a healthy relationship, cautioning against unrealistic expectations and excessive interference from family and friends.
Omani law allows engaged couples an “engagement period” to get to know each other and evaluate their compatibility, aiming to prevent culture shocks after marriage.
Journalist Rahma al Kalbani emphasised that marriage should be a choice, not an obligation forced upon individuals. She advocated for personal freedom in choosing life partners.
Mai al Abri, a journalist with Oman Observer, pointed out the changing perception of women in society. Women often endured silently in the past, but now they are more empowered and independent. She stressed that mutual respect is the key to successful relationships.
The discussion also touched on the distinction between arranged and love marriages. Dr Pallavi suggested that many love marriages face challenges because family members often do not intervene, assuming the couple will resolve issues independently. Without experienced guidance, this can lead to divorce, highlighting the importance of support and communication in all types of marriages.